So thus far this year my wife has:
1. Scheduled all of the kids vacation/trips on my weeks. They have missed what days off I have taken, my wif e’s birthday and a couple of family parties. No big deal.
2. Took them out of state on my week. Now, this was specifically against my wishes. If I did that — I’d be arrested.
Now she has moved on, back around to extracurricular activities which place me North of both our houses and as always — she has discussed these activities with the kids first. So instead of being the bad guy and continue to press for sanity, I gave my time up. I mean what parent on the planet tells their children no to more extracurricular activities when they fail school or have barely passing grades? So instead of the children having equal time with both parents in a meaningful and positive way they will spend their time with a coach, surrounded by people who really have the most superficial of connections. They are happy about it, for now, until they realize the cost.
This weekend was hilarious, we had a pizza party, which started at 7:00pm on Friday. Normally this would be perfect, we pick the kids up around 6:00pm. Except, now football and hell week were taking place, a higher priority than family, well at least my family. So I told my Ex we’d have to pick them up on Saturday. I mentioned I would be over on her side of time getting my hair trimmed and we could grab the kids around noon. She agreed. The following evening that had changed, now we had to drop everything and grab the kids at 10:00am, so my ex could make a business meeting. No, we refused, she went out of her way to tell me how we could just take separate cars to do it… As if you get to set our schedule in our house when you have not done one damn thing to be reasonable. Hell, you wouldn’t even make the drop offs in the middle until the evaluation. So now these games begin, why? Because this person is miserable and everyone must pay. I simply wasn’t playing. I text the kids:
Hey guys I just want to let you know that we are trying to figure out a place to pick you two up. I am texting your Mom every place we will be and hopefully be able to grab you. I love you.
As for my Ex, I do just that. I text her every place we go 5 – 10 minutes before we arrive. She keeps texting me back that too bad I didn’t make time fore my kids and they’ve made plans. I am prepared to call the police and get my kids the hard way. We are busy having our planned brunch, actually just finished, almost ready to go when I receive a text: Because of your son, you can pick them up in 10 minutes at the original pick up location. Uhhh ok, so we can pick the kids up at the previously agreed upon time? At the agreed upon location? So then you were creating a problem, to cause pain and hassle for us? Good job! Nice parenting! Kudos!
As it happens, my Ex decided to bitch aloud to a friend of mine at the drop off about how I am twelve hours late! LOL! So now even though I have e-mails agreeing upon at time and date. Clear explanation of why pick up by Friday was not possible.So making these loud statements in front of the children. Why? I am sure to show your support and let them know that I care for them. Right?
My crazy life!