My Ex Today Via Text:
This is what it’s all about, even 16 years later. Hope we can stop fighting and but their best interests and needs first and move on with our lives and leave courts and attorneys out of it.
Too much has been lost, from time to money to opportunities to their childhood let’s honor our marriage and their lives and be done please.
Really? So you file for a change of custody on a man who has done nothing other than try and leave a marriage of abuse and problems gracefully to protect the children and now that you are scared you want to set everything aside?
Really? You abuse my children, emotionally, verbally and physically — I even talk with you directly, asking you to stop and then you tell me I am lying and to fuck off… Then you get caught… Now that you have not been able to rush this through the courts now it is time to be nice?
Really? In an entire year you have not even been able to drop the kids off in the middle more than five times….
I respond back:
You went back to court. You have abused the children and this whole process and have done nothing other than deny and accuse and continue to. Don’t text me anything related to being reasonable or fair when you continue your bad behavior and have done nothing to be balanced or fair. Now I am going back to my life. Leave me alone.
She text’s back:
What do you want? Seriously: What is it you want? It’s not them full time, your court docs say that you’re fine with time as is. Which, if I’m so abusive and abusing them makes zero sense. So is it $? What do you want? Oh and as for abusing the process it was you who called in bogus reports to cps then had friends call in more bogus reports. I’m just trying to move our lives forward so really: What do you want or need to stop this?
I respond:
You admitting to what you did in a CPS report is not a bogus report and then people witnessing your abuse in public coupled with my daughters on going issues including running away is indicative of a serious problem one I have tried to avoid in every way before and after the divorce. So as I stated at Dr. Yee’s office the courts will have to decide. I am on a date with my wife which we do on the weeks without the kids. You have a good night.
She responds:
So answer tomorrow what you want to stop this BS.
So, you assume because I will not directly remove you from the lives our children what I am after is not the kids? Interesting… For me this is assuring my kids have a choice, it always has been… You have demonstrated at every turn you do not want the kids to have a choice. Max and football — suck it up you can’t go back to Dad’s, even though it was my week, I let him go back to your house. Sam, when she was frustrated and angry, I let her go back to your house. When Sam run’s away and implores you to let her stay with me — NO! You do not want to be exposed, you do not want to loose and as a parent, it is not about winning our loosing, it’s about protecting and raising children, not compelling or black mailing them to get what you want. You intimidate, you bully, it’s nasty and I left because you could not cope with being wrong or not getting your way. My children can have as much contact with you as they want, even if I think you are abusive, I just want to assure they can opt out and leave if they determine your facade is not enough. You will not give them that chance. They have already suffered your barbs and spinning. I cannot imagine if you received full custody how you would be…
What do I want?
I want peace for my children, I never realized how nasty you were until after I left. I did not realize you would sacrifice our children to win. I grieve for my children, I grieve for you… Undoubtedly you will place all blame with me, but it is a terrible price our children are paying for your continued bad behavior. I hope my children awake to the reality of the situation. That’s what I want, eye’s open wide to what you continue to do. Can you face that? I doubt it…. Fifteen years of trying to help you awake and you never did… Just took advantage…